Presumptuous Joke (Upper West Side)

This guy wouldn't tell us the joke until he could think of "that word that means, like, if you do something to someone and they don't like it..." Huh? What word is that? "You know, like when somebody thinks what you did is, like, overboard..." It took about 5 minutes of this, but we finally came up with the word, and even supplied it when he came to that moment in the joke. We didn't know it was going to be an audience-participation joke, though, and let's just say upon watching in the clear, sober light of the day after, we're not exactly proud of participating.